I often look at all the “Mummy Bloggers” of todays social media world and cant help but think how different my life was when raising my babies, one in 1998 (Gabe) and the other in 2005 (Jana – Lee). When I’m reading their posts or watching their videos I find two thinks regularly spring to mind:
- How on earth do you find time to Snap Chat, FB, Instagram, Email, work, clean the house, cook and eat food, exercise and actually spend time with your kids and partner?
- Man kids these days are dressed so flash and stylish! As are their Mums!
No judgement here and Im not saying anything is wrong with this, they are just my observations and it makes me chuckle to myself when I think what my photos of “Mum Life” with little babies looked like compared to what I see today.
I love that many of the “Mummy Bloggers” Or “Parenting Influencers” of today have built communities that provide so much support for Mothers during a stage of life that can be very lonely and terribly difficult. Online support groups give many more Mums around NZ and the world the opportunity to connect and feel a part of something special.
All I can remember when I was raising my babies were local coffee or plunket groups – which to be honest, if you didn’t click with your group, was hard to actually feel supported and a real part of it. I also felt that these sorts of groups quickly became a “who’s baby can do what first” environment and less about actually supporting each other as tired Mums! I was always so much younger than the Mums in my groups and really struggled to fit in.
That is one thing the online support groups has provided really well, an open forum for Mothers to speak about their struggles, ask for help and advice and make the support about them and less about what the baby is doing.
So back to my earlier 2 points, seriously where do some of these Mums find the time to blog and parent!? I was looking after a friends baby a few months back and could not even find it possible to insta story some stuff or get a FB post done that was due or even go to the toilet….. the need to be with her was constant….. I think my kids would have had many serious accidents If i tried to be a Mummy Blogger of some sort back in the day, falling off couches, running onto roads, going missing in malls or airports and all sorts.
Baby Fashion – all I will say is my kids lived in clothes from DEKA! Haha – DEKA was amazing for kids clothes, especially daycare clothes. They would be treated to the odd Pumpkin Patch outfit sometimes – maybe on a birthday or a special event. As for me I think I lived in track pants, my husbands tee shirts and Glassons outfits when I went to work or went out “clubbing”.
Its so different now and sometimes I feel really sorry for new Mums that can feel the pressure to look, dress and present their kids in a certain way. I hope I’m wrong and new mums of today actually don’t cave to that social expectation, as it can be a unnecessarily expensive lifestyle to try and live .
There is nothing like looking back on the old baby photos of you when you were born, seeing your Mum in hospital, flushed, tired and bloody worn out. Showing you what a trooper she is, not giving two shits about what she looks like, just proud that she delivered you safely and she’s still bloody alive! Lets make sure we show those photos of us on Instagram ladies (if you want, some mums prefer to keep these private) but less of the filtered, made up, life is perfect, Im a super Mum and all is under control pics and more of the real, raw, lioness photos aye?
So if I was a blogger in 1998 and made the choice to share my baby on the interweb – this is what you would have had too see (sorry!) but I have to work with what I have and there certainly wasn’t filters on our digital cameras back then, nor did we worry too much about lighting and what was in the background – lol! (Jesus I’m sounding like an old bloody nag!) – just excuse me and ignore all that I have said – continue as you are.
My son Gabriel Manuirirangi Ponui Carr was born on 25/05/98 – in New Plymouth, Taranaki
I hope you enjoyed my little trip down memory lane and how a Mummy blog would have looked if I started one in 1998.
Stay tuned for an amazing giveaway I have planned…. The team from The Sleep Store are pulling together a massive prize pack for one lucky new Mum and Bub. I will post it on my facebook page when its ready.